People often think that showing up for someone means doing something big.  

Bringing meals, running errands, or babysitting. 

But sometimes, even small gestures make a big impact.

A simple "Thinking of you" or "How’s today going?" might feel insignificant to the sender, but for someone trying to navigate a health journey, it can mean the world.

Why Small Check-Ins Matter

They remind people they are not alone.

Illness and early survivorship can feel isolating. A short message can be a good reminder that people are keeping you in their thoughts, even if you don’t know it. breaking through that loneliness.

They offer comfort without pressure.

Unlike a long conversation or in-person visit, a message takes away the sense of urgency to respond. It gives the recipient space to decide when they’re ready, and have the bandwidth  to have a conversation, on their own terms. 

They show consistency.

Many jump to offer help at times of initial crisis, but this kind of support often fades over time. Reaching out to check in from time to time isn’t just about sending a message today, it’s a reminder that others care in the weeks or months down the line.

They don’t require a reason.

You don’t need an occasion or a perfect message. A simple "No need to reply, just sending love" can be just what someone needs that day, but would never ask for.

Not sure how to make check-ins more meaningful? Try these:

✔ Keep it simple: Don’t overthink it, a short "thinking of you today " can go a long way. 

✔ Make it specific: Instead of "Let me know if you need help," try "Can I bring you dinner tonight?"

✔ Use different formats: A text, a voice note, a funny meme, or a short video can all help send the message you’re keeping someone in your thoughts. 

✔ Schedule reminders: Life gets busy. Setting a reminder to check in with someone you care about every few weeks can help make sure they feel the support over time.